“It’s not fair . . . you’ve already done your waiting,” my best friend said, referring to the years of singleness I experienced before marrying Cam at age 29. I was in a second season of waiting, this time for God to expand our family. Cam and I had been trying to conceive for two years. It didn’t seem fair, and I appreciated my friend acknowledging that. And yet I also knew that there is no lifetime quota on waiting for the Lord. We are not promised that life is fair, only that God is good.
The Bible is full of stories of people waiting. Several were waiting for a child, yes, but many more stories tell of a people waiting for the Messiah to come and tie their lower story into what God was doing in his upper story of the gospel and the fulfillment of his Kingdom. It did not unfold as they expected or according to their preferred timeline. And yet, God was with them in the waiting. I don’t believe he wants us to wait passively, but to lean into hard seasons to see what he might have for us in the meantime. He is faithful to use the time for His glory.
It would be two more years before God answered our prayers with a pregnancy. This Advent, in addition to preparing for Christmas, we are also preparing to welcome our child in January. We are savoring this joyous season and thanking God for his faithfulness, while also standing in prayer with friends who are still waiting...for marriage, or a child, or healing, or restored relationships, or any number of good things we believe the Lord would want for us. If you are experiencing sorrow or disappointment this Advent, you are not alone! Trust that God has good things for you, even when the future seems uncertain.
“I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” Psalm 27:13-14